Yesterday, I came across a man who told me to keep quiet while “the men spoke” as he called it. In his language “na so e supposed be”. I was compelled to say many things to him but then I resigned because it occurred to me that having a conversation with him was futile. Think about it, for him a woman should never speak up for herself or otherwise, because that’s how it’s supposed to be. Who made it so?
I felt a lot of things at that moment but most of what I felt was pity. I felt pity for him because first, he would not get far in life with such absurdity for a mindset and then he was going to remain at the level, longer than he imagined.
See, here’s the clause. We say all the bad things that are wrong in the leadership and the society, forgetting that it is us who makes up the society. Imagine a society where everyone thought pattern was at least nearly fashioned to accommodate the next person. Bad leadership or not we would have a more stable society to live in.
Nonetheless, we are not just who we are but also we are where we are as a result of our thoughts process. As a man thinks in his heart so is he, we cannot rise above the shadows of our thoughts. What we feed our minds with becomes a reflection of how our lives would be.
You cannot be better than your thoughts, because its who you are. Like Earl Nightingale once said, “we become what we think about”.
While George Bernard shaw said, “people blame their circumstances for how they are, well the truth is I dont believe in circumstances, the people who get on in this world are the people who look for the circumstances they want and if they can’t find them, they make them”.
I could go on and on but the truth still remains, we have to do better. Train your mind to do better, not for anyone but for yourself. You owe it to yourself to live a life worth living.